Facebook is good for a few things: reconnecting with old friends you lost touch with, coordinating people and get-to-gethers, and supporting and uplifting friends and family.
But facebook can be very very annoying. I think we need to check the filter once or twice before we post stuff. I am, admittedly, guilty of this in the past. I have seen the light....and I have chosen to limit my time on the site. When I do get on, I find the annoyances....and abruptly sign off. These are the thing that lead to the clickety click off the site:
1. The my-life-is-perfect posts (all the time). Really, friends....no one's life is perfect. Quit wearing the mask and just be real.
2. Lovey dovey (or riske') posts between spouses. If you're friends with both, you see the wall-to-wall conversation. Oh joy. My response? Get a room.
3. Crazy people (from high school) you haven't talked to in 18 years friend you just to solicit money for their cause. I don't know you. The only thing I remember about you from high school is walking past you in the hallway on my way to Advanced World Literature and seeing Tim Frye's tongue down your throat. I'm not giving you money.
4. Passive aggressive posts. Things like: "Some people just need to get a life" or "It's just so sad that some people have to act the way they do." Then, there's always the BFF that's in-the-know who comments something like "I know, right?" Ok ladies....this is a public forum. If you don't want to air the whole thing online, don't go there to begin with.
5. Relationship revolving door. If you're having marriage issues....changing your status from married to it's complicated will solicit questions. If you don't want questions, delete the relationship status all together. If you're single and in and out of relationships every 2-3 months, just don't post that stuff. Makes me just feel bad for you.
6. Causes. I understand that we are all passionate about things here and there. I'm passionate about politics and faith. I can get a little carried away with politics once in a while....learned my lesson with that one. But, when you post holier-than-thou junk, you're gonna turn people off. If you want someone to listen, you have to speak to them out of love....not looking down from your pedestal.
7. Birthdays. Ok, this is a double edged sword. It's nice to sign in on your birthday and have an entire wall of birthday greetings. However, we need to pay attention to the person we're greeting. Are you close enough that you should have sent a card or called? I think we're using facebook as a lazy way to celebrate those closest to us. If you're a good friend to someone, step it up and celebrate them.
8. Friend Requests. If you've requested to be my friend, and I decline....don't keep sending a request. I've declined for a reason. I don't appreciate high levels of drama or women that unabashedly flirt with my husband.
9. Half-naked or drunken pictures. If you're tagged in these pictures, anyone can see them if they visit your wall (regardless of if they're a friend or not). I understand you're at the beach and your confident in your body, but you need to remember that other people's husbands are looking at your flesh. Unless, of course, that's what you were going for....then by all means, keep posting half naked pictures of yourself. Thank goodness my husband isn't on facebook (not that he would look anyway...).
10. Over posting pictures. Yes, we understand that something very big happened the other day. Do you need to post 114 pictures of your baby- in the same outfit, playing with the same blocks on the same day? Really, do you need to post 72 pictures of the first day of school? "Here's my daughter's right side on the first day of school." "Here's my daughters left side on the first day of school." "Here's my daughters SHOES on the first day of school" "Here's my daughter looking down the street on the first day of school" "Here's my daughter looking at the bus at the end of the road on the first day of school" "Here's my daughter looking at the bus 100 feet away on the first day of school." "Here's my daughter looking at the bus 5 feet away on the first day of school" "Here's the bus doors opening on the first day of school" "Here's my daughter standing on the first step of the bus on the first day of school." Really? Really? My advice: selective picture posting. One or two pictures will let us all know that your daughter started school today.
No, I'm not in a bad mood. These things just make me shake my head. And maybe I'm feeling a little snarky today....kind of tongue-in-cheek. But maybe, just maybe, someone will read this and make decisions to help make facebook a much less annoying place to visit. :) One can hope.